this blog will also have men being spanked.Stories from readers (if they will write them to me), photos and drawings (they are just fun and sensually exciting), and some tidbits about us.I have been a lurker for many years, and will now start talking a little about our lifestyle.
The advent of the internet, and so many spanking blogs and groups, was the inspiration for me to be able to talk to Cindy about my spanking desires. Without gaining confidence by reading blogs, I might still be hiding some of my desires.
Cindy and I are in our fifties, and have been married for over 25 years.
I have had a lifelong fascination with spanking.I would have liked, originally, that I could spank Cindy whenever we agreed that it would be either fun or useful to solve a problem. Cindy had no inclination for spanking whatsoever, but was willing to try.
After her first spanking, we let the topic drop for a significant amount of time. It wasn't enjoyable for her! Thus, the name of the blog is CONSENSUAL SPANKING!
If it doesn't work for both of you then it is either domination, or abuse!
When I next broached the subject, it was Cindy's turn to say that she was willing to try spanking me, but she did not want to be spanked. I was in a very stressed moment at that time, and thought being spanked might help. Well, all it got wa a little bit of a sore bottom, but it did relieve some stress because I was able to focus a little on spanking, and talk about my fetish, as opposed to only thinking about the other stressful situation.
What eventually evolved was that to have a spanking relationship for fun and pleasure, it was I who would be spanked! Cindy is now occasionally spanked also, as she has seen the drastic improvement in our life! We communicate better, spanking has increased our sex drives, and made us more romantic than ever.
We have experimented with the Disciplinary Wives Club concept. See link on side of panel.
Cindy is at times very willing to spank me, but goes through phases where spanking is minimal. Currently, we are in a more play mode of spanking, with no discipline type spankings having occurred for a number of months! We follow the Dorothy Spencer Spanking Plan, and I will provide a link to it in the little while. The blog I copied an earlier posting referred to the DWC site,and although we have looked at it, we do not follow it.Cindy has played, where I spank her, but the spanks are only by hand (*feels great to me), and limited to about ten. I love every moment of it, and Cindy is becoming more congenial to being spanked as the months go by..
Cindy is very happy giving me little pats on the bottom when we are out, indicating either a playfulness for later, or a slight warning to change my ways. Both are successful in keeping us happy, and eliminating little tiffs from developing.To be honest, I am spanked maybe thirty times for every one time I give Cindy a play spanking. Such is life, and I have grown into loving the lifestyle that we lead.
I have read some blogs where the man is spanked, and may start commenting on them soon also. However, a few lead into complete one-sided domination.I am not saying they are wrong, but simply stating that this is NOT our lifestyle!
We simply spank our troubles away, and at the same time greatly increase our sex life. A win win situation.
I will write about us more as the posts continue...
cheers
red
