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The Disciplinary Wives Club was created by Aunt Kay. It was the FIRST OF IT'S KIND, and flourished .
It was my first introduction into the idea that a MAN CAN and SHOULD be spanked, if in a CONSENSUAL spanking relationship.
It extolled the positive effects spanking can have for a couple, but more than that Aunt Kay's writings explained the logic behind the spankings, and how to administer spankings.
Spanking is not something that is natural to people , in a loving relationship. One does not want to hurt their partner, but a spanking can effectively permit the spanked person to see the errors of their ways. This can usually lead to a change in their behavior that is advantageous for the relationship.
I purchased all of Aunt Kay's Lifestyle books, and Cindy read some of them also. We once met Aunt Kay and her husband Tomy in a restaurant for dinner, and we had a very lovely time. With everyone's agreement, we went back to their house to discuss the lifestyle more openly, and Aunt Kay demonstrated to Cindy how to use various implements on my bottom, and then Cindy practiced.
Prior to meeting , Cindy and I had communicated many times by email with Aunt Kay, It takes time for your partner to accept spanking you, if the thought is alien to their upbringing and way of thinking and living.
Reading Aunt Kay's site encouraged me to start the blog
which was one of a very few blogs about spanking at that time, and quite possibly the first blog written by a man about being the spanked person, not the spanker.. A good friend at the tiem was Bonnie, who had recently started her blog