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Should you have started spanking earlier in your relationship

Do you wish you had told your partner of your spanking desires earlier in life?

I wonder if Ronnie, or Hermione, or Jan, or Bonnie, or so many other CONSENUALLY spanked women,  now wish their marriage had started like this.

A paddle like this would have been handy

In addition, would archedone, Baxter, Marco, John in Holland, Yorkie, Dan, and the list goes on...and many other spanked men wish they had been spanked like the UNDERLING art work below....








Did your partner know  of your kinks?

The problem was that, in our case, we were too young, and to unknowledgeable, and uncertain what marriage even meant. No Internet, limited experience... afraid to scare your partner with your deepest thoughts. We were married in the very early part of 1970's


Today, something of this nature is never far out of sight of my bottom.

bottoms up
smile
Red

17 comments:

  1. Hello Red,

    well, I think my marriage with Lindsay evolved as it should have. I always enjoyed the idea of being dominated, but I never went so far telling her about it. Slowly, I introduced it and asked Lindsay if she would spank me a bit. It evolves to this day, with occaisional spankings, BDSM-light and sexy roleplayings.

    I don't mind that we started 'late' with it....it's in the flow right now and we both enjoy it.

    Marco

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  2. Hi Red, I think I would have run a mile back then. Also I have no idea how couples manage it with kids about. Nightmare!lol
    love Jan, xx

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  3. We never discussed anything like this in my first marriage. If we did we probably would still be married but this stuff wasn't really out there back then.

    With my current wife we did discuss spanking while we were dating and agreed once we became engaged I would be locked in chastity and discipline will begin.

    My wife's first husband cheated on her so she insisted on chastity.

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  4. My situation is a little different. I am one of those weirdos who didn't actually have a thing for spanking until later in life. So, when we married, there was literally no such kink to reveal. We had been married almost 10 years when encountered the idea of adult discipline for the first time. Better late than never . . .

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  5. Too often young people (at least in my time) kept any kinky thoughts to them selves. Had I told Robyn of my thoughts spanking in our house would have started a lot sooner. I would have been happy to present my bare bottom to her on our wedding night and accepted a spanking.
    archedone

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  6. The answer is YES. Shortly after we were married, I asked my wife to spank me and she said no, that doing so was perverted. Well, I was dumbfounded, but OK and my desire to be spanked by her went into hiding. about 15 years or so ago, my wife realizing that I enjoyed spanking fiction books and was looking on the internet about it, read one of my books - think it was one by Fiona Locke - and said she understood (she said she got a bit hot from reading it) and told me to hand her my belt. Spankings started then and continue today, not as often as I would like, but nevertheless. Looking back, she confessed that she wished she had been more open in the first year of our marriage to spanking as we could have had a lot of fun with it. Sigh. Yes, I wish I had been that guy over my bride's knee with the red bottom and every day/week/month/year ever since.
    Baxter

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  7. I told my wife everything from the start but our spanking life never really took off until about 10 years ago. I guess we weren't really ready for it until then.

    Yorkie

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  8. N. decided I needed to be spanked shortly after I met her - and well before we got married!
    L.

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  9. It didn't take long before N. got the idea that I needed to be spanked - and this was when we first started dating. By the time we got married, she had already made it clear that I could expect to be disciplined as often as I "needed" it... and she did!
    L.

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    1. N. once told me that she got the idea to spank you after you confessed that you had been spanked before you met her - once, she said, in the UK (when you were 17) by a 30+ woman, and later by a Swedish girlfriend... and she admitted that this had spurred her to apply that same treatment (which she certainly did! - and which I have continued to do, as you well know)
      J.

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    2. obviously a life time desire
      bottoms up
      Red

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  10. Marco; Very well put, and actually probably the best answer. You must get comfortable with the person you marry, and let things evolve. However, I wish we had evolved earlier in our marriage.

    Jan; yes, cindy would have not agreed earlier in our marriage, and this only evolved after the kids had left home.

    Dan Mei: yes, when we were married no one of the information existed, such that simply talking about spanking would have been a nightmare. Glad your new marriage works for BOTH of you folks

    Dan: we evolve as we age, and this is a fun (??) activity that solves problems and increases arousal. I had the kink from much earlier than I ever stated it to Cindy

    archedone: we were shy, and my original thoughts were that I would be the spanker. That changed to what is now the opposite almost 98% of the time

    Baxter: thanks for sharing your history with spanking. Cindy also reacted with an absolute no, which had to evolve over time.

    Yorkie: fortunately, we evolve, and things that were a definite know can change over time, for the better.

    L: you were, and still are, a very lucky man.

    J: thanks for that extra background about N.

    Some men need to be spanked, and some women need to spank their man. I am one of the spanked men

    bottoms up
    Red

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    1. L. is indeed the kind of man who "needs" to be spanked (&c.), and I - like N - the kind of woman who "needs" (and enjoys) doing it :-)
      J.

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    2. J: I am similar to L, and wish Cindy had started spanking me much earlier in life.
      bottoms up
      Red

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    3. I am sure Cindy makes up for that "lost time"... I "inherited" a man who had already been well trained (and who had already learned to "appreciate" a sound spanking before he met N.)... He still "needs" it, of course - and he gets it as often as I feel it is required...
      J.

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    4. J: absolutely how it should be, for men do need training to be responsible
      bottoms up
      red

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    5. J. definitely takes no nonsense from me - and she reminded me of it today, with a sharp paddling while I was performing my weekend chores this morning... and, later, with a vigorous dose of the switch she cut along the way when we went out for our Sunday walk in the woods!
      L. (with a sore derrière)

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