Three or four days later, Cindy had a melt down while cooking dinner, and nearly scalded herself on the face. This is partially my fault, as I like food hot, but Cindy sometimes mistimes the sequence.
How the scalding almost happened was Cindy's desire to have the plate look perfect. She was putting hot fettuccine, that was in a tomato sauce I had previously made, onto the plate. She lifted the pasta almost to above her face to get all the noodles dangling, so that then she could put the plate underneath and lower them into the middle. A little very hot saucer spattered on her face, hitting her glasses.
YIKES!!!!! What a stupid thing to do, and fortunate that she wears glasses. We had quite a bit of heated voices over this action. Cindy was truly raising her voice, and i kept trying to say calm down, stop shouting, but she threw a fit. Part of her argument is that you ALWAYS want it hot, and you get me upset and frustrated.
While we ate, and things were calmer, I explained that I have seen in restaurants where they simply wipe the edge of the plate if there is some sauce there. Standard practice, as the sauce was already on the pasta. She accepted that yes, that would be simpler, and solve the problem. (she never used to raise the fettuccine like she did this time.)
I then explained that if I cause frustration, then spank me, but let me help to sequence the meal preparation, so no anxiety or frustration.
Shrimp are already cleaned and ready for a one minute grilling in a fry pan.
Sauce has been heated in the microwave.
Cook noodles, slightly al dente, and put in tomato sauce.
Put cooked asparagus (previously cut up, into sauce and noodles.
Now grill shrimps, and i can serve the pasta with asparagus onto the plates, and when the shrimps are ready, simply place them on top, grate some parmesan cheese on top, and top with a little ground pepper.
Cindy sort of tried to do all at once, and got upset and frustrated...
Later while eating, I stated how she almost harmed herself seriously, over a dinner. The shouting and heated words, where I kept saying her to catch your breath, stop shouting... I suggested she should be spanked. Not that I care that she shouted and was upset, that I can accept, but NOT doing something that almost injured her was really BADLY.
We dropped the topic.
The next day, I suggested she should be spanked for last night, and her response was "Not with the hair brush!"
Maybe, sometimes Cindy knows her actions needed to be addressed with a spanking.