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expressing subtle spanking thoughts to your partner

I did read magazines about women spanking men, but was very reluctant to express these desires to Cindy....
I think many men and many  women with desires to be spanked find it very difficult to express these desires, for fear of destroying or seriously hurting a wonderful loving relationship and family.
This might be a subtle way to let your wife know!
A collection of WHAP magazines might just do the trick (Women Who Administer Punishment)
Cindy has no problem spanking me in private in a hotel room, or our cabin when on a cruise!, but she is never this obvious1
enjoy the experience, as you travel from the hand
to your partner using a wooden  paddle
and then leather (this time a belt)
and her seeking your assurance that you have learned the lesson that has been taught to you via your spanking.
bottoms up
Red

10 comments:

  1. It can be very hard expressing your spanking thoughts. In our case we were being frisky one evening and R smacked my bare bottom and I looked back smiled and pushed my bottom out for her. She said Oh you liked that. I said yes and got a few more spanks. A day or so later we talked about it and over time it has progressed to what we have now.
    archedone

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  2. archedone: wonderful progression. Thanks for sharing
    bottoms up
    Red

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  3. Neither N. nor J. were ever as obvious as the (imaginary) woman in pix #2, but there have been a few instances when I encountered knowing smiles as we checked out of a hotel where I had been spanked or whipped within earshot of other guests or of the staff.

    L.

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  4. L: an obvious add on to a drawing, the brush in this art work. Knowing smiles can be delightful. I am in no way ever ashamed for being spanked, and actually proud that my wife is willing to spank me to be a better person.
    bottoms up
    Red

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    1. Even though I have been spanked or whipped under the eyes of some (few) of my wife's close friends - this is, after all, how J. learned how to deal with my misbehavior! - I am still embarrassed when "strangers" (i.e. guests or staff in a hotel, a female attendant in a store's fitting rooms, or a stranger in an airport's women restroom) can hear my being spanked...

      L.

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    2. L: yes, i would be embarrassed also! Specially if Cindy were then to pay for something with her credit card
      bottoms up
      Red

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  5. One way or another, open communication is the only thing that works. Using "Subtlety" is betting on mind-reading.

    You are most likely self-talking yourself out of taking the risk; justifying your nervousness about it. Assuming you have a good relationship there really should be a way to find the time and place for it.

    Even though I do get spanked, I am still often inhibited talking about it too. But I feel I owe it to myself and to the relationship to get something so important to me on the table.

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    1. Tomy: very true..subtle will almost never work! Having an open discussion is the only way. This was just a fun picture, that I built a post around.
      bottoms up
      Red

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  6. I remember WHAP Magazine.As wel as magazines like"Corporal" and "Assertive Women". I imagine that the internet killed them off. I have always wondered why no one has ever posted any of their back issues online? copyright protection?

    I would love to be able to read some back issues of WHAP online

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  7. BOB: The internet has totally killed them off. If ever you find something of this on-line, please let me know so that I can publicize it.
    bottoms up
    Red

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