I have a dominant personality, and it surfaces in our relationship at times. It might be related to the work i used to do, and also my lifetime activity of officiating sports and coaching teams.
Thus, I sometimes say how something should have or should NOT have been done,
instead of phrasing it:
It might have been better if you had avoided such and such... as opposed to
saying bluntly: you should not have done that!!!
I do not realize I say this, but Cindy being upset with my saying should gets brought to my attention in a memorable way.
I had stated this maybe 20 minutes before, when Cindy entered the room where I was in, took a ruler out of the desk, and told me to lower my pants and bend over. This was a plastic ruler, and although it did make my skin somewhat red, it was not really felt. She stopped after a little while, and I apologized and thanked her.
A few minutes later, while getting ready to go out, i stated that the spanking was not felt, and she MIGHT (not so slow a learner) want to use the cane to be more effective. It only takes a minute, and it WORKS! Cindy agreed.
Slow, hard cane strokes are really effective, as are string rapid fire strokes