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managing stress

The ups and dips in life makes for interesting times. Cindy three days before New Year's had one of those dips, where she got stuck in the shower (and had to manhandle the shower doors to get out), as I could not hear her distress, watching football in a different room on a different level of the house. (Actually watching three games, one on the computer, and switching back and forth on the tv).

The Cindy had done some work outside, and her feet were very cold, not using her warm boots.... which she did not know where they were, but I knew and retrieved them instantly when she asked... albeit much later than when she needed them.

and then a third thing happened that had her lose it.. so to speak... she began ranting and raving (my opinion) and I responded.. and it got somewhat ugly.. and our blood pressures must have been higher than they should be, when I told her she should be spanked.... and she kept going... and I said this could cause me another heart attack at the rate this is going... so I wrestled with her to get her onto her stomach on the bed, and struggling gave her six firm spanks on her jean clad bottom...

This ended the argument, and as they say we went to separate corners. Cindy was not happy that I had forcibly spanked her, but she calmed down completely, and my stress abated. All was calm and normal for the rest of the evening.
The next day, I apologized to her for spanking her against her will, and requested that she cane me for this behavior. She said she would think about it, and later agreed. I did say in my defense, that my actions had stopped the insanity, and that the spanks were needed to break the cycle. I also reminded her that she accepted twenty hard spanks with the hairbrush on her bare bottom for a problem that is only now slightly re-surfacing. (that problem was simply stepping out of her shoes, wherever, andnot putting them away, so that they were in the middle of the bedroom, or the hall, or wherever,  and one of us could trip and have a serious accident.)

I retrieved the cane, dropped my pants and underwear, and bent at the waist,a s Cindy applied twelve strokes with the cane. They were not as strong as my last spanking with the hair brush.
When finished, (photo above.. this is me) I thanked Cindy for the spanking, we agreed that the problem was done and gone.

I asked Cindy if this ever repeated itself, would she give me permission to spank her, even somewhat against her will at the moment, if  it is the only way I can see to get her out of a terrible mood, with the provision that the next  day, or later the smae day, she could spank me as long and as hard as she deems appropriate, fand for as many days as she believes appropriate.

She said she will think about it, and I have not asked her opinion about this yet!

Some ways are better than others, but when we are overwrought.. and stressed out, spanking does break the cycle...

What do you think?
bottoms up
RED

16 comments:

  1. From my experience, spanking is the best way to get an issue solved and over with quicker than anything else I know of. So to me you did the right thing, then offering her the opportunity to cane you lets her know you really care and want the issue resolved. Thank you for sharing!
    Dave

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    1. Dave: I agree.. thanks.. I have yet to ask Cindy what she thinks, as she wanted time to consider it
      bottoms up
      Red

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  2. Sounds good to me Red. My wife and I rarely argue and typically we give each the finger and it is fairly well over. I will say that in early december, I was stressed to the max and could have benefitted from a long hard spanking to get my head out of my ass and not been such a jerk. I think I will take your thought here and make that suggestion to R in future occasions.
    Baxter

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    1. Baxter: definitely, if you find you are very stressed, ask for a spanking to help resolve the stress. Being spanked puts a different perspective on how serious the stressful issues are... and shows them not to be so serious... We stress far too much in life.
      bottoms up
      Red

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  3. A consensual spanking it was not. Did she tell you about prior problems with the shower door? Did she ask you before going out where her boots were? If both answers are no and you told her she deserved a spanking and she kept going, then she did deserve it. I don't feel she should have spanked you later for her throwing a fit. Just my thoughts.
    archedone

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    1. archedone: I knew nothing of the problems,they were just stewing in her mind... but my being spnaked was appropriate, so that she knows the dynamics of who the spanker almost always is has not changed
      bottoms up
      Red

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  4. The first thing that occurred to me is that you are escalating the spanking play to a significantly higher level. However, your later offer of compromise is very positive in that she is able to participate in this decision. Actually, I don't have any experience to draw from as my wife usually only spanks at my request and for pleasure only, though that doesn't always rule out severity.

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    1. Redtail:our spanking has escalated over time, as it can be used as punishment.. far better than arguing or being cold... Glad you have a fun spanking situation..
      bottoms up
      Red

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  5. J., my nearly-perfect wife ;-) gets spanked only very occasionally for some slip-ups (and aggravated 'grumpiness') - but only with my own hand, or with a kitchen spoon. I could count on the fingers of my (two) hands, however, the number of times this happens in the course of a year - whereas...

    L.

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    1. We'll see about that - but, meanwhile...

      J.

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    2. J&L: hmmmmm .. more than five times a year... excellent....see if you cn make it once a month...what a fun goal for this year...
      bottoms up
      Red

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    3. If and when that happens, L. will not be allowed to mention without first having been given clearance to do so!

      J.

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    4. J: awwwww!!!! just nice to know that you occasionally receive, maybe one out of every twenty or so spankings.... Maybe you might describe your thoughts and feelings you experience while being spanked...
      bottoms up
      Red

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    5. We'll keep you "posted"!

      J.& L.

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    6. great.. maybe keep a running total for each of you
      bottoms up
      red

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    7. Perhaps during Lent... :-)

      L.

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