22.4.12

A reason to be pleasant - spanking

A quick post... last night we were going out with friends for dinner, but they can be tiresome if you let them natter on forever.

We have learned to re-direct conversations, and they are learning not to go into such extensive bloody inane detail...

I am learning to be more aware and try to guide the conversation onto new topics, and if one starts to bog down, simply to move it away from politics or problems, and more toward happy thoughts.

To keep me in the happy thoughts mode, I asked Cindy to give me a quick spanking that would be effective before we left.

I took out the cane, and lowered my pants and underwear, but remained standing. This gives Cindy more fleshy parts (her words) to cane. I suggested three would be sufficient, but Cindy enjoyed herself giving five quick smart cane strokes.

Cindy used the cane stronger than last time, and there were three red tramlines that showed three of the five were stronger. I think the look of satisfactin on this woman's face in the photo was very similar to Cindy's when she was finished.

I think that the first ever really discipline spanking has shown her that her efforts should get an immediate reaction, and be effective. To be effective, the spanking should grab my attention, beyond the erotic.

I felt them while sitting during the meal, and the evening went quite well.

Happy Spankings
Red

55 comments:

  1. It great to have a happy satisfied spanker :)

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    1. overherlap: best a few strokes before going out, than having a unpleasant time while lout, and then a much more serious caning when you get home...
      Red

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    2. What is great is that it makes you both happy, even if it is a more serious session later!

      Dave

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    3. It does, and adds to keeping the love alive
      Happy Spankings
      Red

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    4. I have occasionally felt the need to give L. a firm 'talking-to' with an appropriate 'tool' when we got home AFTER he had been surly or boorish at some friends' home where we had been invited, but your posting makes me realize that I should perhaps use the paddle or the martinet BEFORE we go out!
      On the other hand, when I invite one of my closest women friends (and L. is expected to cook and serve the meal), I sometimes order him to place a switch on the dinner table -just to remind him that I expect 'service with a smile'... This typically elicits a giggle or a knowing smile from our guest, but only twice have I had to apply the switch to my hubby's naked 'derrière' -and that under the eyes of two women who know how I handle domestic discipline (and had already watched L. get a bare-bottom paddling or flogging)...

      J.

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    5. J: I truly believe the spanking before the event works wonders, knowing how a considerably stronger and longer spanking awaits as soon as you get home if a problem arose. However, the spanking before cannot be too strong, just enough to feel when sitting or talking with the people a the event.
      In front of others, we have not experimented that way... although i am certain it is very effective.
      Thanks for writing
      Red

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    6. I will follow your suggestion tomorrow -before we go over to the house of our friends who have invited us for dinner (along with another couple) and we will see how L. behaves...

      J.

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    7. SOrry, we have been away, so I did not actually add anything too the blog, but I did have some posts still scheduled. Thus, I only saw this comment to be posted today. Do tell how the evening went for both of you, and maybe L might be permitted to give his reactions.
      Happy spankings and evenings out
      Red

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    8. After getting a preliminary bottom-warming (hairbrush followed by three dozen with the martinet), L. was on his best behavior that night. In fact, he was "the life of the party" -according to our hostess, when I gave her a 'thank you' call on Sunday. She is a colleague rather than a 'close friend', but I couldn't resist the urge to mention how L. has been prepped for the occasion... There was a nervous giggle at the other end of the line, and then she asked: "Is that the way French women keep their husbands in line?"

      J.

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    9. J: Glad to know the spanking before going was a resounding success for both of you... I may re post this if you permit... Telling your hostess why L was so charming will probably make for interesting conversation for her with other colleagues. She might consider adopting this method with her husband... The more spankers the merrier. I would love to be kept posted on any follow-up conversations.
      bottoms up
      Red

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    10. As it turns out, my colleague showed up unannounced yesterday (Sunday) on the rather flimsy pretext of returning a book I had lent her two weeks ago when we had dinner at her house. I slyly offered her a cup of coffee in the kitchen, where I knew she could not fail to notice the martinet hanging on the wall. She did, of course, and I explained (in the most matter-of-fact way) that it is commonly used in France to discipline "bad boys" -but I didn't elaborate, and I left the rest to her imagination...

      J.

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    11. J: WOW!!!! Dropping by to return a book, when it could have been done at the office. Glad you gave her much more to think about!
      I wonder if she will ask to watch a discipline session anytime soon!
      bottoms up (and reddened)
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    12. I doubt it (we are not that close), but I wouldn't be surprised if she tries "fishing" for more spicy details -which I would not be too reluctant to provide. L. is a bit apprehensive since he learned about her visit (he wasn't around at the time, but I made a point of telling him about it).

      J.

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    13. It will be fun to see how this develops.. Your colleague must be pondering how to get the juicy details. Maybe you should refer her to spanking blogs (but not this one in case J and L are your actual initials) to gather more information.
      I imagine you are enjoying the torment you have caused her...
      bototms up
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    14. The next move is up to her - and I will react accordingly. I certainly have no plans (at this stage) to give her a 'demonstration'...!

      J.

      I suppose I should be grateful for your restraint?

      L.

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    15. J: love to know what happens
      Have fun
      bottoms up
      Red

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    16. What happened this Monday is that my colleague asked me if I could buy her a martinet during my Summer trip to France!

      I resisted the urge to ask her how it would be used (having no wish to get more intimate with her), but I suspect she may volunteer the information -and, for my part, I plan to fulfill her request...

      J.

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    17. Was that the reason why you decided last night to deliver (and have me count out!) 100 lashes of the martinet 'out of the blue' -even though my backside was still sore from the repeated sessions I had been subjected to over the weekend?

      L.

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    18. Are you complaining? I whip you when you need it -or when I feel like it! In retrospect, I think that (in addition to what you got over this past weekend), you need a serious dose of the strap and of the rattan cane! I will see to it before the week is out!

      J.

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    19. J. always keeps her word - and so, last night, it was fifty licks of the strap and three dozen with the rattan cane...

      And today, of course, the usual routine as I get my "instructions" and perform my chores...
      We'll see what is in store for Sunday...

      L.

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    20. J: will be fun to see what comes when you give her the martinet.
      L: seems your writing on this blog is increasing your spankings.. Be very careful
      bottoms up
      Red

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    21. It's true that L's occasionally irreverent comments sometimes earn him a sound paddling (or flogging) - but hardly anything more than what he is used to getting in the 'normal' course of things, as I am sure he would agree! Let him speak for himself!

      J.

      PS. The martinet I have been asked to buy for my colleague will not be delivered to her until mid- or late August (and I will tell in due time about her reaction)

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    22. Since J and I use the same computer, I know what I am likely to incur if my comments annoy her -or if she simply wants to remind me of the way she 'rules the roost' in our household. That, of course, is her privilege (hear me, J.!) and I fully acknowledge her right to spank or whip my derrière as she sees fit -in her French style!

      J.

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    23. "Vive la France" indeed! - and I have my own plans to celebrate Bastille Day (July 14) in a way that L. will certainly appreciate, in view of his latest post -which I read and signed myself to register my approval of his willingness to have me teach him the stinging lessons he so often needs!

      J.
      (L: here is your chance to comment!)

      I assume you also have plans for the 4th of July?

      L.

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    24. excusez moi... VIVE La France... enjoy creating your own fireworks J.... bottoms up L

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    25. Red, white and blue! --well, not in that order... and local fireworks will cover up the noise of our own private celebration!

      J.

      ps: We are off to France shortly thereafter and will be visiting my sister in Burgundy (more about this later!)

      pps * I think I know what she has in mind...

      L.

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    26. L: weather prediction is for a very hot sunburning while in France this summer.
      bottoms up
      Red

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    27. Friends have invited us for a backyard bbq later today, and so J. decided to celebrate the 4th of July at mid-day, with a "parade" of her own choosing.

      I was "invited" to arrange a display of twelve of her favorite instruments on to of the bed and, then (in the appropriate attire) to offer my unprotected derrière to successive "samples" of two dozen each with every one of her "tools"...

      I assume I will be standing at the party later today!

      L.

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    28. L: Happy 4th... Standing to salute oyur country is mandatory...
      bottoms up
      Red

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    29. Bastille Day (July 14) was duly observed -at my sister's house in Burgundy- and this meant "double trouble" for L's derrière as we delivered fireworks of a sort that left him begging for mercy, but "merci!" was the word we wanted to hear from him, and he eventually said it in a tear-choked voice before being consigned to the corner (bare-bottomed, of course!) for a good half-hour.

      More "treats" followed on a daily basis during the rest of the week (including a couple of open-air sessions in the nearby woods), and I also took care of purchasing the martinet my colleague asked me to bring her back in June. Needless to say, it was repeatedly tested on L's backside -but I don't know whether I will mention it to her when I deliver it later this week...

      J.

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    30. By your description, it sounds like we might have heard the fireworks hear in America. Hope everyone had fun.
      bottoms up
      RED

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    31. As promised, I delivered the martinet to my colleague (who may, in due time, become my friend as well). I ignored -by treating it as a joke- her suggestion of a demo or of a 'practice session' but I am sure I will get some feedback from her after a while!

      J.

      I appreciate your restraint! It's bad enough that this lady already knows why a martinet hangs on our kitchen wall!

      L.

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    32. J: What admirable restraint, in treating it like a joke. I thought you might have stated something in the manner of " your husband will immediately let you know how effective every stroke is, so you should use these responses as a guide." " Do let me know how you make out with it!"

      L: only time will tell what the future has in store for all of us.
      bottoms up
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    33. My colleague called me this morning to let me know she had used the martinet I got for her on Saturday night, but she did not volunteer any further details (other than the 'fact' that her husband had -in her words!- "taken it like a man" (whatever that means!)

      She also suggested I might drop by some day to give her some advice as to how to use the martinet (or, alternatively, to have her witness how I use it with L.!!!)

      Needless to say, neither of her two scenarios held any immediate appeal for me -but I am not ruling them out either! Time will tell...

      J.

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    34. J: Definitely something to think about, as you have permitted other woman friends to see L be punished, and you r sister in law has given a helping hand at times.Might be fun to have dinner at their place, and see where that leads.
      have fun
      bottoms up
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    35. This past Monday, P. (my colleague) asked me to stop over at their place on our way home from work -saying that she had a "surprise" for me. This turned out to be an expensive bottle of Dom Pérignon she meant to give me in return for the 'present' I had brought her from France. When I got to her house, I discovered that the bottle AND the martinet had been placed together -by her husband!- on the coffee table. She then ordered him to lower his trousers, and he (somewhat reluctantly) complied! P. then proceeded to deliver a pretty sharp flogging -and then invited me to demonstrate my supposedly "superior" skills! I went along with her request, and (without boasting) showed her how a man should be properly whipped-his tearful pleas notwithstanding!

      And when I got home later that evening, I was very much in the mood to treat my own dear husband to a similar session -for no other reason than my fancy- and, much to my satisfaction, he willingly submitted! Later this week, the two of us will toast with the bottle P. gave me (unless L's behavior calls for another dose of the martinet!)

      J.

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    36. J: a hot time was had by all, both the spanker and the spankee in both households.Assuming you begin to like this person's company, many new adventures await.
      So nice of L to acquiesce, as though he really had any choice in the proceedings.
      bottoms up
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    37. Indeed, L. had "no choice" in the matter, and I don't even know (or care) whether he understood why he was being whipped (I only told him about P's gift and, of course, he already knew that I had brought back a martinet for her). Later (yesterday), he got a brisk paddling in his own right - i.e. for a specific misdemeanor - and I filled him in on the Monday evening session with P. (and her husband).

      L. was rather disturbed by the idea that I had flogged another man's derrière - assuming (rightly) that his was the only one to feel the sting of my lashed - but I promptly reassured him that I had only whipped P's husband out of courtesy (which was true), and that I had no plans to have P. reciprocate (which was equally true, although...)

      J.

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    38. J: I will be off on vacation for a while, so will catch up later. Any comments you leave on these older posts get held by blogger until I approve them, which I do immediately, when I am in town. Until I get back, I cannot see them.
      Seems to me both men are in for a spanking whenever you decide to invite this couple over for dinner.
      bottoms up
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    39. Somehow, I don't think this will happen any time soon -but, in the meanwhile, P. and I have been sharing some spicy tidbits about the way each of us uses the martinet.

      J.

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    40. I am still considering whether to reciprocate P's invitation (and to give her a demo of the way I wield the martinet). L. has no voice in the matter, of course, and I wouldn't expect him to object (after all, he has been occasionally spanked or whipped before a few of my close friends -not to mention my sister), but the problem is that I don't feel that close with P., even though we now share some 'secrets'...

      A 'joint session' is definitely not on my agenda -at least for the moment! Meanwhile, L. has been acting up lately, and has been on the receiving end of no fewer than four major sessions over the past week (variously with paddle, martinet, switch, strap and rattan cane) followed by 'corner time'! (The skin of his backside has been toughened up over the years through such ministrations...)

      No outdoors ventures this past week, but...

      J.

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    41. J; Obviously,you make the decisions, so it is up to you,not P, to decide how the future unfolds. However, I believe you will decide to give her a few pointers, assuring yourself that she gets maximum benefit from her efforts.
      However, you might consider giving L a little break before the demo, so that he reacts well to your efforts.
      bottoms up
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    42. Yes, it's rather tempting, isn't it?... I might invite P. for a "session" (but not, I think, for 'doubles')

      As for L, he will be getting what he needs (and deserves) as I see fit -and, in fact, should I invite P., I wouldn't mind having him display a well-marked derrière before giving her a demo!

      All in good time!

      J.

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    43. I am indeed tempted to give P. a demo -one of these days- but I don't think this warrants 'a little break' for L. (as you kindly suggest).

      Indeed, if and when I decide to invite her, I would rather have her watch me apply the martinet to an already well-striped derrière -just to stress the point that he is constantly subjected to my form of 'conjugal disciplne!

      J.

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    44. J; you will make these decisions, and are quite capable in doing so. However, an unpainted canvas can show every brush stroke,and the cumulative effective would be amazibg. Plus, every bottom tends to soften just a little the longer it is NOT spanked, so L might even dance more.
      bottoms up
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    45. There is some merit in your suggestion...

      J.

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    46. I am a very wise (cracking) individual!
      bottoms up
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    47. Well, I finally relented and invited P. (but not her husband!) for brunch on Sunday (October 21). As usual, L. (who had no idea of what I had planned) was performing his weekend chores in the skimpy attire I always insist on -and this is how P. found him when she arrived!

      His bottom was already striped, as a result of two of my (previous) "snap inspections" but, as he proceeded (somewhat clumsily) to serve snacks and drinks, he was treated to three dozen lashes of the martinet -much to P's amusement...

      I had no intention (nor do I have now) to ask her to "give me a hand" - but I might change my mind :-)

      J.

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    48. J: at least P saw how you administer a on the spot spanking, and that will be helpful in her disciplining her husband... I am certain that P is very happy to be friends with you... and so eventually shall be her husband, when he learns to accept being spanked by P.
      bottoms up
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    49. From what I gather, P's husband has had no choice but to "accept" having his derrière flogged with the martinet I brought her - but what I intended for her to see on that Sunday was the way L. is attired when he is ordered to perform his chores (and what happens to his derrière when he fails to do so to my satisfaction).

      I expect this will inspire P. to demand the same kind of behavior from her husband (and to let me know about it)...

      J.

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    50. J: Glad it is working out for both you and P, and I hope you will let us know of the progress.
      bottoms up
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    51. P. (from what she tells me) is still in the process of 'training' her husband, and has not requested my assistance - which is fine with me...

      J.

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  2. A sound reminder to behave just before you meet with friends is very useful and can keep you out of trouble when talk turns to politics or religion.

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    1. Michael: actually, we started to move to politics, and I (hopefully graciously) stated we should talk of more fun things, so that we can enjoy our meal... everyone agreed. thanks for writing
      Happy Spankings
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