2.6.10

Pegging : Anal sex with a twist

Having written about mouth soaping, I wondered what other taboo I might talk about.
I truly would love feedback on your thoughts whether with a fictional adult account, or simply by anonymous. However, I enjoy writing the blog for whoever might like to look at it, whether they comment or not. It allows me to express my opinions, if only to myself, but helps me think through ideas.. a Win win situation!

I am enjoying looking at the people who are followers of the blog, and by clicking on their name, find what other blogs they either write or follow, and this has lead me to a wealth of excellent blogs and material that I can use in daily posts.
Well, on to today's topic.
Anal Sex with a twist. PEGGING
The topic came to mind from an excellent post by Deidre on her blog Spanking My husband.

The post was from Sunday May 23,2010 and was titled pegging my husband. I tried a link to the post but somehow it didn't work, so simply visit her site and scroll down to the posting.To begin: she gives an excellent link to Wikipediahttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pegging_(sexual_practice)

Then: Read her description of the event: including the mental (both for the dominant and the submissive) and physical thrill of pegging.
Then maybe ask yourself some questions.....As a male, have you ever thought of trying anal sex with your partner?As a male, has your partner ever suggested that you have anal sex with her?

As a female, have you ever thought of trying anal sex with your partner?As a female, has your partner ever suggested that you penetrate him anally?

I think many men have wished to try this with their partner, just like many men wish that their partner would spank them. It takes a LOVING, brave and confident woman to be able to spank her partner effectively.I am reminded of what Hermione wrote a few days ago about a friend from school stating that if oral sex was a part of marriage, then she would never want to be married.

Think back to when you first had oral sex with your partner! What were your dreads when trying to please your partner orally, or receiving oral attention from your partner..! ouch ...no teeth... Definitely a topic for another day...

Is anal sex that different? YES>>> BUT>>>>The main fear a man might have is that being penetrated would make him GAY!!! (Seinfeld: not that their is anything wrong with that...)Yet might that man like to have anal sex with his wife, with him penetrating her. How different is it for her to penetrate him, albeit with an artificial penis... From my point of view, not very different at all.

The ICK factor (as Hermione puts it for soap where the sun doesn't shine) is present, but this can be avoided by preparing, just like chilling a fine wine.

If we like having our bottom spanked, is this not somewhat a stimulation of the anal region also.
From Wiki: Advice columnist Dan Savage wrote that he believes all men should try pegging at least once, as it may introduce them to a new enjoyable sexual activity and illuminate them to the receiver's perspective in sex.

I agree, but Cindy has not been interested, and I have only mentioned it once or twice in ten years.... We will need to talk a little more, because now that we are fully comfortable with spanking each other, albeit my bottom far more often than hers.. this might just be another thrilling step in dominance / submission.One must contemplate the submission needed to being penetrated anally! Almost every Femdom spanking artist dabbles in a woman wearing a strap-on dildo. (there must be a better name for a dildo, but it escapes me at the moment) This submission might be very erotic, possibly after being well spanked.

Some of my male readers probably wear panties at times.... if women can wear pants instead of skirts, then men can wear lingerie... Just another way to have your submissive side come out...
Everyone has different degrees of the spanking scene that they live in... some venture into BDSM... some strictly discipline, some only for fun but still with a burn....
I have an excellent link to Lady's blog, where she delves into her thoughts in a submissive dominance relationship!
So what are your thoughts...

cheers
Red

13 comments:

  1. Interesting Post and something we have done a few times. I am lucky in that my Lady is sexually adventurous and in addition to applying discipline to me regularly, also has dabbled in other things including pegging. I used to consider that pegging could be used a a 'punishment', however after reading Deirdre's wonderful post, have changed my point of view: 'Its a sexual act that emphasizes her dominance and my submission'. I have included 'pegging' as an option for punishment on our Notice of Discipline form, but am considering removing it. That said, I still think that getting pegged after an intense spanking is about as hot as it gets (pun intended).

    I think that if a couple decides to give pegging a try, they make sure they have the right equipment and I highly recommend the DVD, "Bend Over Boyfriend" as a way to prepare. This video is very well produced, provides much information regarding safeguards and how to perform the act without freaking out one of the partners. In addition, its done with a great sense of humor. In addition to being informative, its also very entertaining.

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  2. spankedbywife: well stated... I am gong to use it in a follow-up post..
    Red

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  3. A very interesting and thought provoking post. My wife is ok with pegging although most of the time its just anal penetration without the harness. Interestingly enough it did not start out a femdom or submissive thing but as my wanting to have my anus stimulated but now I found myself becoming more and more submissive at least verbally. Which is odd when I am not normally that outspoken when I am engaged in vanilla variety of sex.
    It sounds like you would like to try this and I hope you get your wish. I have had a few bad reactions in the past but eventually most of the time when they see how much I love it the become enthusiastic also.
    Thx....

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  4. Razornick: Glad you liked the post. So many variations exist in life... and so little time. I will drop by your blog after my vacation. Always interested to read other people's fascinations. Thanks for adding to the commentary.
    cheers
    red

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  5. Well, my wife is somewhat vanilla... but she is moving forward with me. I've bought the strap-on, and showed it to her. Now, it's the excruciating waiting for Her to use it on me. I'm definitely very excited about it!! She would not let me do her anally (nor punish her... which is why we've shifted to me being the sub!)
    Happy tgiving!

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  6. sometimesspanked: you are very fortunate that your wife spanks you. I have received a few letters from men wishing to be in our situation. Patience and you may succeed. IF not, still give thanks today for the wonderful wife that you have.
    red

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  7. The experience did teach me how to be beter penetrator with my wife on anal sex with her.
    she had learned seen the image of a cock sliding in how she can do to recieve me w/o hurt or pain anymore. It work both ways.

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  8. Never tried it, but am curious. Not as curious as my wife is so I guess it is only a matter of time...

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  9. anon: thanks for an interesting comment, and for sharing..
    Matt(Scally) : good to know your wife is curious. A whole new dynamic for both of you to experience. We are talking about it a little also... only time will tell

    Red

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  10. I just got pegged for the first time ever, my wife was ecstatic, she played with my balls and penis also, It was a good experience to me, not the best orgasm ever but definitely a really good one. My ass still hurts...

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  11. anon: thanks fro sharing. I imagine many people would have the same result, in a loving relationship...We may join you some day in the future
    bottoms up
    Red

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  12. I've been reading on pegging for a while. Just reading it turns me on and makes me want my wife to try it. I have done this to myself just for a test. I know it can be done without pain. I can tell you though my wife would think I am crazy and worry that I was gay. I think she might even consider leaving me. Needless the only way it would happen is if she brings it up to me.

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    1. anon: communication is everything. good luck in your marriage
      Red

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